Problem Solving & Conflict Resolution
Most of the “conflict” your child faces at this age centers around their bodily experiences of hunger, exhaustion, and discomfort. While it can be difficult to calm a screaming toddler who can’t tell you what’s wrong, sometimes a little detective work can lead to helpful solutions.
- When your little dissolves into tears, ask yourself, are they hungry or overtired? Have they fallen down or injured themselves? Is a favorite toy just out of reach? Are they scared of a loud noise or angry that you’re leaving the park?
- Investigate whether your child is experiencing a physical sensation or an emotional reaction to better understand how you can help them.
- Your toddler will need your guidance when they begin to fight with friends or squabble with siblings. Acknowledge your child’s feelings and narrate possible solutions for them. Since your child will not have language to talk about the conflict, you will need to identify the problem and potential solutions for them. If possible, try to allow your child to choose the solution.
- For more information about the steps of problem solving, click here.
Conflict is not a “bad” thing – it’s a learning process!
Allow your child to encounter (age-appropriate) conflict with peers and family members. Giving them the chance to briefly struggle with the situation before stepping in to save the day can build confidence and set the foundation for resolving conflicts successfully in the future!
- Observe whether or not your toddler will share their blocks with a frustrated sibling before encouraging them play together or taking the blocks away.